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The blog puts forth practical, feel-good ways of dealing with contemporary chaos and the myriad internal struggles we deal with each day. Free of sexual tensions and mate-competitive behaviour, straight women and gay men are the greatest mates ever! Admit it or not, but whenever a man and woman interact, there is a frisson of awareness between them.
An ambiguous, awkward sexual tension that underlies such interactions. Both are either trying to convey a sexual interest or trying to gauge if the other side has any — or even trying hard to establish that there is none. Truly comfortably platonic friendships that are without undercurrents are rare between the two sexes. Not impossible, but rare.
However, gay men are often the best friends a woman can find.
Movies, books and web series — not to forget real life — are replete with instances of deep and close friendships between straight women and gay men. Why is that so? For one, with a gay man there are no taboo subjects or fear of being misunderstood. Second, a woman feels safer, knowing for sure she is not being targeted or wooed.
Even better, this man and this woman are not competing for the same men. Third, since gay men have no qualms giving in to their feminine side — as opposed to straight men who are rigidly macho — it is easier for women to connect on several more levels. In fact, studies show that women prefer hiring gay men over straight men. Fourth, a woman hanging out with a gay friend — whether both are single, married or in a partnership — is not judged as she may be when she hangs out with a straight man.
Psychologist Eric Russell of Texas Christian University claims that the age-old relationship between the homosexual male and the heterosexual female serves a biologically adaptive function. A woman engages more openly and intimately with a gay man because she can totally be herself — laugh out loud, look him straight in the eye, share some poetry and say just about anything with no fear that he may misinterpret a smile, a laugh, or a shared joke for anything but what it is. Most women believe that heterosexual men are attracted to all women in varying degrees, and look at them as potential mates.
And so, women are always wary of their friendliness being misinterpreted as flirtation or sexual interest. And very often, it is! There is a lot of tension in such power dynamics! This is because men — especially when part of groups as they often are — fear their masculinity may be questioned if they have a close gay friend. That is enough to put them off. Second, gay men find they get excellent relationship advice from women, who know men well and are not competing Looking for a gay guy friend the same guys.
Studies reveal that both straight women and gay men rate their friendships with each other as very meaningful and deep. Women in such friendships tend to have a better positive body image and feel more secure and more appreciated for their personality.
Gay men find themselves appreciated and rooted deeper with such secure straight women friendships. So, it is a win-win for both. Experts advise that in case you are not part of such a heterosexual female-homosexual male friendship, you may well want to seek one out for yourself!
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